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Who Reads Vows First? Bride or Groom?

When planning your wedding ceremony, vows can be very important. There is a lot that goes into planning vows especially if you write your own. But in what order should you say them?

So, who reads their vows first? Vows are traditionally spoken by the groom first and then by the bride. This is done usually if you are repeating traditional vows, if you have written your own then you may decide who you would like to go first.

Continue reading for more on vows at your wedding ceremony.

How Do I Write My Wedding Vows for Him?

If you and your husband to be have decided to write your own vows, then it is completely normal to get some writer’s block. But here are some things to include in your wedding vows that will make the task much easier.

Use personal stories. When writing your own vows you want your fiance to know how much they mean to you. A perfect way of doing this is using an example of a time in the past that made you love them, a romantic action, or a time of admiration. Using these past times in your vows will give a more personal feel to your vows, instead of the old traditional vows.

Add a touch of humor. Adding some humor to your vows can lighten things up and make it more enjoyable. You can use funny moments in your past relationship or make lovable jokes. Using humor can make a memorable moment at your wedding ceremony.

Use romantic wording. Using romantic words and sweet sayings may not be everyone’s thing. But if you can include some romantic and cute sayings in your vows it would certainly warm your fiance’s heart. If you aren’t very good at writing in general, you and your fiance could choose to write your vows together.

How Long Should Wedding Vows Be?

When writing your own wedding vows, you may wonder how long wedding vows should be. Here is the traditional length of most wedding vows.

One to two minutes. Having your vows be only around one to two minutes is the general length of most wedding vows. This would be somewhere between 150 or 200 words. If you make your vows any longer your guests may get bored. Keeping it short and sweet is best.

Four to five minutes. If you and your fiance have decided to say your vows together in unison, then you could have your vows be longer. Since it would take around five minutes for each of you to say your own vows anyways, this could be allowed.

One minute. If you are doing the traditional repeated vows, it should only take about a minute or slightly longer. Traditional vows are said by the one officiating your wedding, and then repeated first by the groom and then by the bride. If you choose you could have personal written vow for your officiant to say and then for you to repeat if you don’t want to say the traditional ones.

If you need help writing your own wedding vows, check out this helpful worksheet!

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Hi, I’m Kristin. While I haven’t found my Prince Charming yet, I’ve been dreaming of getting married for a long long time. I started this site as a place to record all the things I’ve found and researched in preparation for my own wedding someday. I can’t wait to share it all with you!

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